Trucker Spouse Normal Or Not

I really don't understand why he would throw away a future so carelessly... He was a man who would ride his bike miles just to tell me he was sorry that was before he went on the road. What about being out there makes someone change. He changed to a point that I found out months after his son was born that he was only half an hour away I gave him an eight hour notice. And I still tried to see it his way. I held onto the memory of who he was before. His passenger couldn't even face me and tell me herself why she excepted a ride from a man she didn't know who told her he was heading home to see his family. What kind of people change like that?

Ok well I can see you are starting to get it. From your initial posts it sounded like you either didn't see or couldn't accept the truth.

Who changes like that? No one. He most likely was this "new" person all along.

The "change" that occurred was when he covered it up with false romanticism and pretend caring in order to win you. Once he did that, he didn't need to keep up the charade any longer so his true nature came back out.

I'm guessing you're both young, maybe early- to mid-20s, right? If you're looking for him to really settle down and treat you right, it ain't gonna happen until the next decade, sorry to say.

Now if you're totally committed to him, then you absolutely need to stand your ground and demand he make a sudden and drastic change. If he doesn't agree, then don't even waste your time.

Jenny, I replied before reading the latest posts. After reading more of your posts, I agree with Persian Conversion.

For you is to say "get out". The humiliation to have her there watching....ugh.

I really wanted to believe him but I am that mama bear and my kids will see me be both parents. I don't have a father's point of view but I had my father and I can empathize and not make the loss a burden only a blessing.

I'm very sorry. And if he didn't cheat on you, I hope for him that he can find a way to prove it. Either way...it's a sh*tty situation. If not him...you'll find another good man out there. Good luck.

I really don't understand why he would throw away a future so carelessly... He was a man who would ride his bike miles just to tell me he was sorry that was before he went on the road. What about being out there makes someone change. He changed to a point that I found out months after his son was born that he was only half an hour away I gave him an eight hour notice. And I still tried to see it his way. I held onto the memory of who he was before. His passenger couldn't even face me and tell me herself why she excepted a ride from a man she didn't know who told her he was heading home to see his family. What kind of people change like that?

Ok well I can see you are starting to get it. From your initial posts it sounded like you either didn't see or couldn't accept the truth.

Who changes like that? No one. He most likely was this "new" person all along.

The "change" that occurred was when he covered it up with false romanticism and pretend caring in order to win you. Once he did that, he didn't need to keep up the charade any longer so his true nature came back out.

I'm guessing you're both young, maybe early- to mid-20s, right? If you're looking for him to really settle down and treat you right, it ain't gonna happen until the next decade, sorry to say.

Now if you're totally committed to him, then you absolutely need to stand your ground and demand he make a sudden and drastic change. If he doesn't agree, then don't even waste your time.

he is almost 40 I'm in my 30's that's why I said I'm disappointed in him he is old enough to know better

I really don't understand why he would throw away a future so carelessly... He was a man who would ride his bike miles just to tell me he was sorry that was before he went on the road. What about being out there makes someone change. He changed to a point that I found out months after his son was born that he was only half an hour away I gave him an eight hour notice. And I still tried to see it his way. I held onto the memory of who he was before. His passenger couldn't even face me and tell me herself why she excepted a ride from a man she didn't know who told her he was heading home to see his family. What kind of people change like that?

Ok well I can see you are starting to get it. From your initial posts it sounded like you either didn't see or couldn't accept the truth.

Who changes like that? No one. He most likely was this "new" person all along.

The "change" that occurred was when he covered it up with false romanticism and pretend caring in order to win you. Once he did that, he didn't need to keep up the charade any longer so his true nature came back out.

I'm guessing you're both young, maybe early- to mid-20s, right? If you're looking for him to really settle down and treat you right, it ain't gonna happen until the next decade, sorry to say.

Now if you're totally committed to him, then you absolutely need to stand your ground and demand he make a sudden and drastic change. If he doesn't agree, then don't even waste your time.

he is almost 40 I'm in my 30's that's why I said I'm disappointed in him he is old enough to know better

Oh yeah, he definitely should know better then. Although I guess it's possible this is some kind of mid-life crisis thing. But being in my 30s, I can't really speak on that topic with any experience!

I hope my posts didn't come off too harsh, I know this is a tough situation and not your fault, I was more just mad at him I guess, and that anger might have peeked out a little in my writing.

I truly hope things work out in the best possible way for you and your children, however that may be.

And just for the record, there are many great men out here on the roads who are 100% committed to their families, and would never even consider doing something so offensive and disrespectful to the women who wait patiently at home for them.

He used to work for may trucking and he talks to some of the people he graduated with in Utah like Bonnie and Blake