A Challenge, Maybe?

No money to buy diapers for his own child because he was too preoccupied taking care of HER needs first? Spent the night at the truck stop with HER? Hell no. NO. No. Hell would freeze over before I'd let him walk back into my life! Tell him that he can now consider his truck his new home!

I can say this I didn't let him mess up my Thanksgiving even though he did this the weekend before. He truly isn't bothered by missing out.... Maybe that is what bothers me so much. But I am truly done with him.... I needed to get it out there cause it was eating me up inside especially since he is acting like I'm wrong for feeling the way I do.

Excuse me , but you are saying you have no $$ for diapers and he refused to help. ?

Do you have food for yourself and child ?

If not I am certain that some if my fellow TT followers would feel as I do and send you a few bucks .

Excuse me , but you are saying you have no $$ for diapers and he refused to help. ?

Do you have food for yourself and child ?

If not I am certain that some if my fellow TT followers would feel as I do and send you a few bucks .

thanks but it is ok I resorted to asking my family for help... Thank you for offering though. The best thing to come out of this is letting it out rather then holding it in....

Sometimes a step or two backwards is needed before moving forward again

You know what you have to do . Just do it and be thankful for your family's support.

Good luck

Sometimes a step or two backwards is needed before moving forward again

You know what you have to do . Just do it and be thankful for your family's support.

Good luck

I'm always thankful for my families help I said resorted because my mom believed in him as much as I did and now its more they have to resort to helping me once again. I don't appreciate being viewed as a failure but that's what is happening once again. Thank you for the luck .... I'm thinking I need to be more wiser more so then needing more luck. Its really disheartening, I wasnt the only one he let down.

Let me tell you something, Jenny. If I had been that woman he was giving a ride to, when I would have come out of his truck and see the distress it was causing you, I would have been jumping in and not been afraid to reassure you that there was nothing going on. I would have been giving you an explanation as to why I asked your "good man" for a ride and needed his help. I wouldn't have been hiding, and wouldn't have let the poor guy fend for himself trying to reassure you. That's what an honest woman in need would have done. Instead, she hid and didn't say a darn word, when she clearly saw the trouble it was causing.

Sometimes men can be a little "dumb" (no offense guys!!) about these things, because they often don't see eye to eye with us, ladies. We're very sensitive about stuff like that, whereat a lot of guys don't see "what's the big deal about it" because they don't think about our feelings. Let's assume your guy was that one who didn't know any better.....that woman should have stepped in and present herself to you.

She didn't. And he lied also. And he took care of her before your child and you. Spent the night elsewhere instead of his own bed.

As far as explaining your son....telling him the truth might be a solution, but when he's much older (an adult man). A child doesn't need to hear all that, and if he's to have a relationship with his dad, you don't want to come off as the parent who always bad mouth the ex. Kids *hate* that. The truth will eventually come out some day. Maybe you can simply say something like "daddy had different views than mommy about relationship commitments".....one day when he's old enough, he'll understand what you meant. As for now, your job is to raise him teaching respect not only for girls, but for everyone. Be strong, don't stay in your own bubble and seek support where you can. And most importantly....always try to wake up seeing each day as an opportunity to find something better, with a smile. Smiling always help. :)

thank you what you wrote is exactly what I told her when I asked her to talk to me instead she hid and he defended her

Jenny- You sound strong. Also I see you were disheartened. If things don't change and he won't be responsible- What about 18 years of child support, and 4 years college support? In asking this. sometimes I'm too blunt. He's a trucker, he's employed, so he's got money.

Good luck.

Jenny, this just happened in my family. I don't make things up.

(Ok, I'm making up names to protect the guilty.) My step daughter is "Alice", her husband is " Bob ". I came Into this family about 5 years ago. In this time Bob never had a regular job. Alice had to work so they would have money. Bob stayed home all day. Alice got pregnant, Bob did not look for a job. When Alice had to go to the doctor anytime, Bob was too tired to drive. A year later, another baby, and Bob was still too tired to drive, even though he didn't have a job.

Alice continued her work, and Bob watched the babies during the day. But then he would go out in the evening when Alice came home.

There are a few a few extra details I will skip, but last month Alice had enough. She filed papers for divorce. Then Bob told her how good he was for her that he even quit a job he had for 9 years so he could be with the family. (That was news to me!)

There's no extra people is this story, but I do want you to know that Alice felt so much better after she made the divorce move. And got Bob's lazy butt out of the house.

Yes, that's a move only you can make for yourself. I don't know about you except what you wrote but maybe making that big decision for yourself will take a big load off your mind.

A guy who thinks it's no big deal to have another woman in his life for any reason that takes priority over his wife and son has made his own decision. Now it's your turn. Best of luck.