The Lonely Times For Women Truck Drivers

Starcar, I went to CDL class with a young man who was 20 yrs old and he grew up on a farm, backing horse trailers and other equipment since he was a kid. He was a natural when he got behind the wheel of a semi - blew me away. That's how I'm imagining you since you grew up around it. Did it come to you naturally? Also, I'm clueless regarding "Mable and her 4 sisters"? Curious.

Kathy, I know a heartache is a hard to get over and I genuinely empathize. The only thing I can say with any confidence is that time does heal a heartache. I'm sure you know this but sometimes it helps if someone reminds you. It sounds like you have a good civil service/government job though? Mabye not?

Redgator, wow that's a bummer about Bob!! I can't imagine life without Bob in it. :) It sounds like your ex is stepping up to the plate regarding your kids. That's cool. But you divorced the same time you lost a job? That's a lot on a persons plate at once so, obviously you're a very strong woman.

Great stories. I really enjoyed all the various backgrounds of each of you - we're all coming from so many different directions. Isn't that interesting. It seems the independent drivers are enjoying what you do for a living so that's reassuring.

Aahhhh.. its one of those lonely sucky nights. No kids just me and my thoughts. Guess I should be getting use to nights like this. Just feeling really low.

Well I am gonna try and sleep. You ladys have a good night.

I did pull alot of various trailers. And I'm proud to say, I can side park one quite well. But a semi, pulling a 53 footer is a different kinda deal. And when you back a horse trailer, your just putting it in a certain "spot"...not tight up against a dock door. But I learned, tho I learned my own way..

Oh...and Mable and her 4 sisters ???? Thats a guy's hand.................

Starcar, I went to CDL class with a young man who was 20 yrs old and he grew up on a farm, backing horse trailers and other equipment since he was a kid. He was a natural when he got behind the wheel of a semi - blew me away. That's how I'm imagining you since you grew up around it. Did it come to you naturally? Also, I'm clueless regarding "Mable and her 4 sisters"? Curious.

Kathy, I know a heartache is a hard to get over and I genuinely empathize. The only thing I can say with any confidence is that time does heal a heartache. I'm sure you know this but sometimes it helps if someone reminds you. It sounds like you have a good civil service/government job though? Mabye not?

Redgator, wow that's a bummer about Bob!! I can't imagine life without Bob in it. :) It sounds like your ex is stepping up to the plate regarding your kids. That's cool. But you divorced the same time you lost a job? That's a lot on a persons plate at once so, obviously you're a very strong woman.

Great stories. I really enjoyed all the various backgrounds of each of you - we're all coming from so many different directions. Isn't that interesting. It seems the independent drivers are enjoying what you do for a living so that's reassuring.

Thanks Kayak, I usually am a strong person, but this has just really bothered me. I really fell for this guy, bad judgement on my part, I don't normally let that happen. I was so happy, now I am struggling to be excited about anything. I was so pumped about this truck driving thing, now...just trying to make it day by day. I need to get over this before I get into training though cause I am so down in the dumps that I am concerned that it will hurt my concentration. This kills me acting like this I am such a whiner right now, lol. So unlike me.

I was married for 11 yrs it so hard to be alone. Days are easier cuz I keep busy with the kids but nights are bad. Like the one I had saterday night. I an so bad I sleep on the couch. I think If I was able to get out and do something at those times or maybe get into the dating scene it might not be so bad, but I cant get out becouse I am a full time mommy. I guess this is practice to Prepare me for life on the word. I sure am getting plenty of practice time.

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Kathy - falling for someone doesn't mean your not strong. Being heartbroken doesn't mean you're not strong either. It means you're going through a rough patch. I was such a whiner for a long while after my split so, let yourself know it's normal and you're not expected to live up to anyone's standard except your own. There's not a limit on how long it takes for a broken heart to heal. This I learned through a ton of reading, therapy and talking with people who had went through a similar breakup. It hurts like hell sometimes but it will go away - unfortunately there's no specific time frame. I found being social to be the best cure. Also, hiking, biking or any kind of exercise will help. I know that sounds silly but I promise it's true. I think taking care of yourself is really instrumental in healing.

Pebbles - it sounds like you're going through some similar emotions. You should join an activity group with people who have kids. There are a ton of them if you go to: meetup.com and search for things that interest you and get involved. I started going to meetups for hiking, kayaking, etc. and it was a blessing to get the socialization. Not to mention you'll meet new friends. The hardest part is just doing it. But, it get's easier each time you go and you realize there's many people who are looking for similar things as you. The worst thing is staying home alone all the time - I found that to be torture at times. And, once you're driving a semi you'll have new experiences to keep you occupied. Oh, and there's tons of dating sites - I'm willing to bet there's some for single parents. You could alays have a "play date" with the kids? Just an idea. How old are your kids?

I'm not sure how old you are Pebbles but, without mentioning my age I'll just say my eldest son is 28 years old and dating now is so drastically different then dating when I was in my 20's. You understand Kathy because we didn't have the internet back then, lol. The dating scene is very sterile and routine nowadays. Maybe I'm just not into it because it seems like it's just not that fun. I enjoy going out with girlfriends and doing things through the meetup groups and those keep me busy. This weekend I went to a dinner/theater where the audience participated in the play - I was the Queen of Hearts, lol. It was fun.

Anyway ladies my weekend has been consumed with HazMat studying so I've mostly stayed home and I've been checking the forums and posting randomly. I appreciate everyones openness by sharing your lives with us and I hope one day we meet on the road. That would be cool. Pebbles when are you going to CDL school?

I'm definately on tough cookie but both the job loss and my marriage ending best things that ever happened to me. Its all about perspective. I choose to look at the positive. Kathy I went thru an emotional roller coaster in my relationship during training. Don't let that have you loose focus. Pebbles I'm sorry your having such a ruff time but it will get better.I had a guy leave a note on my truck today with his phone number. Was kinda cute:)

Yea thats kind of scary! I dont know how to date. My marrage consumed a big part of my adult life. I tryed at trucking school with a guy from here, but that didnt go well. I am 34. As for going back to school I am talking to a few other companys, but I might have to get a regular job for a bit before I leave back out. We will see. I should have it figured out by the end of the week.