Spiteful Boss Ranting

Hey guys, you all have been so helpful to me with sharing knowledge and experience from the road. Since June I've been treated like utter crap by my housekeeping management. A combination between them and getting out of severe depression helped me to make a lifestyle change to go otr and live out my dreams. Since June I've felt like I've been targeted as a doormat for them to wipe their management manure shoveling boots onto. But since October when I gave my letter of resignation for my last day as April 11th and a start cdl training date of April 17th, it has been tripled in amount of firepower from them. To be honest I am a great employee, I bend over backwards for them and I'm the hardest working one we have (everyone else disappears for multiple hours at a time plus time for breaks) I constantly complain to them about how I feel taken advantaged of by my coworkers because they do nothing and since this is an emergency department it needs to get done whatever it is. I don't even get acknowledged for the hard work I do only screw ups from them. I feel like I'm the one they don't trust and hate while my coworkers are rewarded and praised constantly especially in front of me. Just fI've more months to go... I can do this...

I have a question. Is there anything besides your job holding you where you are at? If not, I would go ahead and shotgun applications out. If you get prehires with Companies that have their own CDL school, maybe start considering one of them. If you find one you like, I would just change your resignation into a 2week notice, then set up the orientation that following week after your last day. My point is there is no reason to live in misery. If this is what you want, then go for it. Fortune favors the bold!

Drive Safe and God Speed

Reaper,...it's customary to provide two weeks notice to an employer you intend to leave. 1 month notice is the extreme of what you should provide. Why do you feel the need to provide them with 5 months notice? You are not a CEO or CFO or other high level executive,...these are the people that typically will give months of notice when leaving an organization. It's not your responsibility or problem to make it easy for them to hire your replacement or leave things in an orderly fashion. What you are making it easy for them to do is make your life miserable and delaying a more desirable career path.

Not that you are asking, but if I were you I'd move up my start date with Prime to January 2nd and stop worrying about your current employer. Prime would be happy to have you start sooner. "Get on with it" Man...IMO there is nothing standing in your way.

There are a couple things holding me back from jumping in asap. (Trust me I'd be already in primes program now if that were the case)

I want to put in a full year of employment here just in case if things happen and I can't continue my dream job I have an opportunity here back at the hospital (different departments will gladly take me I already asked)

I was requested by my fiancee and her family to stay till tax season is over due to the massive amounts of birthdays, holidays, and my fiance and is anniversary April 16th.

Fiance also requests I do not train in middle of winter for a big rig even though I've insisted that training in winter is better for my safety rather than being thrown into it.

Giving the resignation letter this early only reason why I've done it this early is because I'm the guy who believes to treat other the way I want to be treated. So if I were the employer I'd like to get notice asap so I can hire people to cover positions. (I'm the only one here in the emergency department housekeeping left fulltime, the rest are floaters (people from other floors to cover the lack of staff)) I feel like even if they hate me, and if they make my life hell, future employers will see how early of an advance notice and should look better in favor of me.

Reaper...you seem like a good person, I commend you for that and respect the fact that you obviously think about others and not just yourself. But honestly, you are unnecessarily taking on way too much of other people's and your employer's baggage.

For starters you wrote:

I want to put in a full year of employment here just in case if things happen and I can't continue my dream job I have an opportunity here back at the hospital (different departments will gladly take me I already asked)

Is this a plan to fail or a plan if you fail? What is it? If you are a good worker and have already "greased the skids" for a return if necessary, they will be just as willing to hire you back regardless if you worked there a full year or 7 months. You are only 24. If you were my age and had an employment record of moving from job to job every 6 months, I could understand your concern. But you're not and you haven't.

You also wrote this:

Giving the resignation letter this early only reason why I've done it this early is because I'm the guy who believes to treat other the way I want to be treated. So if I were the employer I'd like to get notice asap so I can hire people to cover positions. (I'm the only one here in the emergency department housekeeping left fulltime, the rest are floaters (people from other floors to cover the lack of staff)) I feel like even if they hate me, and if they make my life hell, future employers will see how early of an advance notice and should look better in favor of me.

Wow. In my 30+ years in the corporate world, I have never seen or heard anything like this at your level. Is that a good thing? Well, your heart is in the right place, but I think you are way over thinking this and over valuing the merit of a half a years notice in a low demand, unskilled position. Please don't take offense to this but they will not need 5 months to find a viable replacement. I can almost guarantee they have numerous resumes in an HR file ready to go, they expect high turnover in a job like you have.

For half my career I ran large scale projects ($500k+) and was a VP of two different technology consulting divisions. I have hired many people, fired many people, and accepted the resignations of many people. I ramped-up projects from 2-50 in 6 weeks and ramped them down to 0 just as quickly. At any given point in time had up to 60 people within my sphere of management responsibility. All I and anyone else in my position expected was 2 weeks notice. My take on this is simple, if you want to work somewhere else and informed me of that, then for a myriad of reasons I really don't want you to stick around for a long, protracted period of time. My focus and my investment was always on people that wanted to work for the company I was employed by and the project(s) they were assigned to. If I was considering hiring you and heard your story of 5 months notice, I honestly would be scratching my head and questioning the conventional wisdom of a move like that. If you want to move-on, why on earth would stay any longer than you need to? Do you really know what you want? "Doubt" is what would enter my mind. Sorry,... just not buying this as a reason to give 5 months notice.

You seem to be giving yourself an out, a parachute if you fail at truck driving. Confidence? My friend, you cannot go into this half-committed or thinking about "what if I fail" or "planning to fail". Please if the only advice you take from me is this; once you commit to this career you must do so 100% and allow nothing or anyone to stand in your way. Nothing will enable failure faster than a lack of commitment and feet in multiple camps. Single minded focus is the only sure fire way to succeed in this and you must free your mind from the fear of failure. Positive thoughts and attitude.

And finally you wrote these two points:

I was requested by my fiancee and her family to stay till tax season is over due to the massive amounts of birthdays, holidays, and my fiance and is anniversary April 16th.

Fiance also requests I do not train in middle of winter for a big rig even though I've insisted that training in winter is better for my safety rather than being thrown into it.

I understand the importance of considering other peoples input. I do. But this needs to be your decision. You are allowing your future in-laws to dictate when you should do this. And they are likely influencing your fiancée's opinion as well. If you allow it, there will always be a reason to delay this. Something will always come up...always. Driving in winter or dealing with tight, unforgiving construction cattle chutes in the spring/summer/fall,...there are always challenges on-your-own to overcome no matter what time of year you decide to train. We have seen enough examples of people in this forum sticking their toe in the water,...for months and even years. Nothing wrong with that. Ask yourself though, are you one of them? You are not there yet, not ready to commit to this. Again it's okay. I do suggest a day of reckoning with yourself, dig deep and seriously think about just how bad do you really want this.

I hope you don't think I am picking on you...not my intent. I honestly hope you make a decision and make it happen. IMO, based on everything you have said thus far, the sooner the better. I sincerely wish you the best of luck.

No I'd never think you were picking on me. And I appreciate your input into this. Honestly my fiance and her family they are influencing me mainly due to we are living with her parents so she will have to deal with their fallout. They re very controlling. This is also another reason why I'm waiting till April for my work too... they practically demanded I give it till one year. Honestly I'm not letting theme get in my way for the future lifestyle. I just need to handle this as diplomatically as possible till we move out. Once we move out she and I couldn't possibly give the slightest care about other people's opinions (strictly her family lol) we both agreed that if it wasn't for them id at least wait till March so I could help with taxes. But due to their influence and their control over her, I don't want her taking the yelling fallout if I leave earliest than one year. Trust me it is in the plans. I have no intentions on failing at trucking. I also have no intentions on returning to the hospital or the state even.

Her parents don't believe I can do it or don't want me to do it because ido be away from the family. Im not going to go into the details about her family and my relationship with them. This is also a big reason why I need to become a trucker to get independence and get her out of there and on the road with me so she and I can relax and be better off.

Also I can say is good luck... There are a lot of moving pieces to this, I hope it works out the way you want it to.

Who knew g-town was a sage? Epic response for the archives.

Reaper, you can't drive a truck until both feet are in the cab and the door is closed. I'm sure you can figure out the symbolism here.

As g-town correctly points out, the pickle you're in is largely of your own making/allowing. Can your fiancée hit the road with you? You can cut the BS from your employer and in-laws right now. Find a school, get started, hire on with a company that allows riders, (and that could get you back for a birthday or two) marry your girl and go have an extended honeymoon seeing the country and living your dream. Doesn't this sound more exciting than being pulled in four different directions for the next five months?

Actually her riding with me is the goal, I'm hired by prime. I just know if I cut right now before Xmas, they will throw her and I out and nowhere to put our stuff, and no way to be able to transport said stuff. (Got a few massive heavy fish tanks that my fiancee and I struggled to get down the flight of old wooden narrow stairs. Let alone up them. I want to at least stay in good conscious until I can get the fish tanks and bulky heavy stuff out. Then they can be dropped like a sack of concrete. I have no emotional ties to her family but I've been thrown out of his house before. My fiancee with her asthma had to move out our house worth of stuff by her self in the past because he refuses to help anyone besides himself and I was not allowed back inside because I spoke my mind and stood up to him. He is a very controlling and self centered jerk. I know the games he plays.