How Do I Get Out Of This?

Ya know....I'm an older woman and single.

And I'll leave it at that. Lol

Sorry needed to lighten the mood.

That was darn forward of her. Uhm...she sounds totally unhinged to me. Now I don't want her driving a truck at all.

RUN. Call your dispatcher and tell them what is going on. This can't be the first time and if it was reported before but they got conflicting stories, the prior stories would bolster your credibility. Get off that truck asap. See what your DM/FM or whoever says.

***disclaimer...this is my personal opinion and no reflection of Brett or TT

Rainy, if I recall correctly a couple days ago you stated you currently have a male student. How do we know it isn't you he's referring to!?!?!? Bretts created a monster, gave ya the moderator title and now your out there manipulating your students!? Just kidding of course....

Road R. As difficult as it's going to be you really do need to contact your company immediately. You really do need to take rainys advice. Your trainers behavior (as well as yours) is completely unacceptable.

NOPE I have a female trainee. But I manipulated men long before coming to this site hahaha. :)

Whew, this is something different! Not that it doesn't happen, maybe more than we know, but usually people don't talk about it. (Not saying you shouldn't talk about it, Road R., just to be clear.)

I have to agree with the others who say you should report your trainer to whoever you were told to report things to. Most companies that train have a specific point of contact for trainees for problems like this. I know Prime did when I trained for them. Don't wait too long to do it, either. If she's threatening you, she's probably one step away from calling it harassment (or worse, rape) and turning you in first.

Talking to her might be an option but it's risky. When you've had that kind of relationship and then try to end it, it's best to end it with a clean break, at least in my experience. Anything else just makes it a lot more complicated in the long run.

Even if you get kicked off her truck at the truck stop, the company will probably have another driver pick you up to take you to the nearest terminal. I can't imagine they would just leave you hanging there -- unless they think you started it and it's your fault. As others pointed out, the first one to talk is more believable for whatever reason.

Good luck, and let us know how it works out. I'm curious to know what happens.

Ok, after much thought I got this one.

You can:

1) Go the "tell all route" and require HR to actually work for their money. Keep in mind that you will loose all control of EVERYTHING and may deal with adults that have credentials so to speak... Or:

2) Fight "Cougar with Cougar"...Find a bad fine mean old lady like my wife (shes temporarily unavailable) to stand in as the new cat in town. Arrange a little by chance meeting, middle of night rest area meeting....you get the picture......

Bet trucker Coug would sign you off in 2 seconds.

My 2 cents.

After consulting with my trainer regarding your issue he simply said this:

3) "Get gross"....

Ok, after much thought I got this one.

You can:

1) Go the "tell all route" and require HR to actually work for their money. Keep in mind that you will loose all control of EVERYTHING and may deal with adults that have credentials so to speak... Or:

2) Fight "Cougar with Cougar"...Find a bad fine mean old lady like my wife (shes temporarily unavailable) to stand in as the new cat in town. Arrange a little by chance meeting, middle of night rest area meeting....you get the picture......

Bet trucker Coug would sign you off in 2 seconds.

My 2 cents.

Pick your nose, belch scratch your butt, don't shower so she won't want u ...omg. Wow.

Hey sir, I too began trucking at age 21 and now im almost 26. Trucking is a difficult career where you need to be 100% mature and mentally prepared.Getting into trucking was pretty easy for me but the really hard part was finding a decent local job.

3 years experience with 2 fleet driver of the month awards and 1 top 5 company-wide company driver award and I was being denied. A few times the interviewer even told me that he wants me to drive for them, but due to past experiences with young drivers he is absolutely terrified because of my young age. I wonder why?

I want you to know that your actions right now will have a giant impact on you in your future. Whether trucking is your calling or not, you will have to answer for your actions. So you have to ask yourself what are your priorities in life? Is it acting like a child with no self control and thus spireling downward? Or is it to always be conducting yourself in a professional manner and rise through the ranks towards your goals?

I think your trainer is reckless and has no place in this industry but I wont take your side either. You claim to be ready for a solo upgrade but I question that. I dont think you're mentally there, and far too immature to be handling such a deadly vehicle. When I was a trainer at Prime I trained a few students who were 21-25 years old. They were easier for me because they were in my age group.

But as bad as some of those students were, they never had your mindset and immaturity. They had a mindset for safety and professionalism and a burning desire to become a solo driver and they wouldn't let anything get in the way. I politely urge you to really think about life and your future. I know so many people who repeatedly did stupid things in their 20's, unfortunately some didnt make it.

I respect you for getting this off your chest and seeking advice, that took a lot of courage. Proceed with caution through this and please let this be a wake up call to yourself. From one young man to another, good luck in your future dont screw it up before it even starts.

Mr.Daniel,

Good on you for your many stated accomplishments. I can agree with some of your points, however, step back on this young mans capabilities, of which you most likely know nothing about, regarding his ability to safely operate a truck... Your quote of "too immature to be handling a deadly vehicle" is frankly over the top.... Your hard line reflects a tad of your age as well...

Hey sir, I too began trucking at age 21 and now im almost 26. Trucking is a difficult career where you need to be 100% mature and mentally prepared.Getting into trucking was pretty easy for me but the really hard part was finding a decent local job.

3 years experience with 2 fleet driver of the month awards and 1 top 5 company-wide company driver award and I was being denied. A few times the interviewer even told me that he wants me to drive for them, but due to past experiences with young drivers he is absolutely terrified because of my young age. I wonder why?

I want you to know that your actions right now will have a giant impact on you in your future. Whether trucking is your calling or not, you will have to answer for your actions. So you have to ask yourself what are your priorities in life? Is it acting like a child with no self control and thus spireling downward? Or is it to always be conducting yourself in a professional manner and rise through the ranks towards your goals?

I think your trainer is reckless and has no place in this industry but I wont take your side either. You claim to be ready for a solo upgrade but I question that. I dont think you're mentally there, and far too immature to be handling such a deadly vehicle. When I was a trainer at Prime I trained a few students who were 21-25 years old. They were easier for me because they were in my age group.

But as bad as some of those students were, they never had your mindset and immaturity. They had a mindset for safety and professionalism and a burning desire to become a solo driver and they wouldn't let anything get in the way. I politely urge you to really think about life and your future. I know so many people who repeatedly did stupid things in their 20's, unfortunately some didnt make it.

I respect you for getting this off your chest and seeking advice, that took a lot of courage. Proceed with caution through this and please let this be a wake up call to yourself. From one young man to another, good luck in your future dont screw it up before it even starts.

Mr.Daniel,

Good on you for your many stated accomplishments. I can agree with some of your points, however, step back on this young mans capabilities, of which you most likely know nothing about, regarding his ability to safely operate a truck... Your quote of "too immature to be handling a deadly vehicle" is frankly over the top.... Your hard line reflects a tad of your age as well...

Hey sir, I too began trucking at age 21 and now im almost 26. Trucking is a difficult career where you need to be 100% mature and mentally prepared.Getting into trucking was pretty easy for me but the really hard part was finding a decent local job.

3 years experience with 2 fleet driver of the month awards and 1 top 5 company-wide company driver award and I was being denied. A few times the interviewer even told me that he wants me to drive for them, but due to past experiences with young drivers he is absolutely terrified because of my young age. I wonder why?

I want you to know that your actions right now will have a giant impact on you in your future. Whether trucking is your calling or not, you will have to answer for your actions. So you have to ask yourself what are your priorities in life? Is it acting like a child with no self control and thus spireling downward? Or is it to always be conducting yourself in a professional manner and rise through the ranks towards your goals?

I think your trainer is reckless and has no place in this industry but I wont take your side either. You claim to be ready for a solo upgrade but I question that. I dont think you're mentally there, and far too immature to be handling such a deadly vehicle. When I was a trainer at Prime I trained a few students who were 21-25 years old. They were easier for me because they were in my age group.

But as bad as some of those students were, they never had your mindset and immaturity. They had a mindset for safety and professionalism and a burning desire to become a solo driver and they wouldn't let anything get in the way. I politely urge you to really think about life and your future. I know so many people who repeatedly did stupid things in their 20's, unfortunately some didnt make it.

I respect you for getting this off your chest and seeking advice, that took a lot of courage. Proceed with caution through this and please let this be a wake up call to yourself. From one young man to another, good luck in your future dont screw it up before it even starts.

Im not gloating about my accomplishments I am pointing out that this industry is a tad bit more difficult to get through when youre barely over the legal age. Young people do stupid things (thats just a fact) and because of this they have a reputation. This reputation is a big part of why it was so difficult to get a local job even though I had accomplished a decent amount. By saying that, I am pointing out that his advancement through trucking may or may not be more difficult due to his age. The last thing he wants is to be behaving like this and get that on his record.

In my opinion, this situation demonstrates a complete lack of self control, poor decision making, and not keeping your eyes on your goal. All qualities and behaviors that are found in a mature, soon to be solo driver. This job is driving but a lot of it is mental too.

But hey this is a forum so everyone has a different opinion and I respect yours.

Right on. .. I would encourage any young professional to take your tact. The difficult part, as you have stated, is the "young" part. It ain't easy, we all get our turn...

You made me think back to my prior "professional skins" one of which was public safety. I put your words of advice or opinion to that of day a 21 year old police rookie of which life skills and maturity are paramount in split second decision making... Ergo; different agencies have differing minimum age requirements etc.

My semi flippant comment regarding this young mans predicament comes from my own experience of being a young lad harkened by the Cougars roar..... ;)

He'll get past it and be a pro...

Mr.Daniel,

Good on you for your many stated accomplishments. I can agree with some of your points, however, step back on this young mans capabilities, of which you most likely know nothing about, regarding his ability to safely operate a truck... Your quote of "too immature to be handling a deadly vehicle" is frankly over the top.... Your hard line reflects a tad of your age as well...

Hey sir, I too began trucking at age 21 and now im almost 26. Trucking is a difficult career where you need to be 100% mature and mentally prepared.Getting into trucking was pretty easy for me but the really hard part was finding a decent local job.

3 years experience with 2 fleet driver of the month awards and 1 top 5 company-wide company driver award and I was being denied. A few times the interviewer even told me that he wants me to drive for them, but due to past experiences with young drivers he is absolutely terrified because of my young age. I wonder why?

I want you to know that your actions right now will have a giant impact on you in your future. Whether trucking is your calling or not, you will have to answer for your actions. So you have to ask yourself what are your priorities in life? Is it acting like a child with no self control and thus spireling downward? Or is it to always be conducting yourself in a professional manner and rise through the ranks towards your goals?

I think your trainer is reckless and has no place in this industry but I wont take your side either. You claim to be ready for a solo upgrade but I question that. I dont think you're mentally there, and far too immature to be handling such a deadly vehicle. When I was a trainer at Prime I trained a few students who were 21-25 years old. They were easier for me because they were in my age group.

But as bad as some of those students were, they never had your mindset and immaturity. They had a mindset for safety and professionalism and a burning desire to become a solo driver and they wouldn't let anything get in the way. I politely urge you to really think about life and your future. I know so many people who repeatedly did stupid things in their 20's, unfortunately some didnt make it.

I respect you for getting this off your chest and seeking advice, that took a lot of courage. Proceed with caution through this and please let this be a wake up call to yourself. From one young man to another, good luck in your future dont screw it up before it even starts.

Im not gloating about my accomplishments I am pointing out that this industry is a tad bit more difficult to get through when youre barely over the legal age. Young people do stupid things (thats just a fact) and because of this they have a reputation. This reputation is a big part of why it was so difficult to get a local job even though I had accomplished a decent amount. By saying that, I am pointing out that his advancement through trucking may or may not be more difficult due to his age. The last thing he wants is to be behaving like this and get that on his record.

In my opinion, this situation demonstrates a complete lack of self control, poor decision making, and not keeping your eyes on your goal. All qualities and behaviors that are found in a mature, soon to be solo driver. This job is driving but a lot of it is mental too.

But hey this is a forum so everyone has a different opinion and I respect yours.

Im sure of it, he'll get out of this hole.