For Wifes: Need Help Dealing With My Ex Wife Concerning Visistation With My Children.

I am a new trucker, been driving for a few months. Divorced 6 years ago and have remarried 4 years ago. Unemployed for 2 years and kept up with the child support payments during that time. Now that I have started this new career I am having difficulties getting my visitation with my kids, its always been difficult because of the ex and is getting worse. I was lucky to get into a dedicated local run so I could take advantage of family time. Granted, the position is an on call position, but I have worked it out to have every other Saturday off to get my kids. I feel I have done everything to please this woman but she still treats me like a dead beat dad. My wife thinks the ex is still trying to control me, which I have to agree with to some extent. Any suggestions would be helpful. Trying to avoid taking this matter back to court but willing to do so if necessary.

Jason....I spent 9 years working for the Child Support Enforcement arm of the Department of Justice. I know right where you are at...and where you need to go...Its not as hard as you think. it may cost you a little, but worth it in the long run. Depending on how your visitation is written...you can get it changed to meet your job home time. Courts really respect a dad who pays his child support...and because of that, they will work with you, to get your visitation times moved around so you can see your kids.So here's what you should do...and you can also have the court do the honors of chewing your ex's bum off for visitation refusals. Contact an attorney..the one you used for your divorce would be great. Ask him to write a motion for change of visitation, to your original divorce decree. ALSO...if you have changed your income, or she has changed hers, or you have other children, or she has, this is a very good time to have a modification of your original child support order done. Be sure and tell your attorney that your ex is withholding visitation, because she knows that you are only available for a limited time to see your kids. Ask him if there is any way that the court could address this issue at the hearing ( you will have a hearing, unless the judge flat agrees with you, and formalizes your motion by court order.) For the child support modification, you will get credit for any other children you now have...as will your ex. They will also recalculate your incomes and your required child support amount. So theres how it should be done....I hope I've helped a little. It really helps your wallet, if you know exactly what you want when you go talk to the attorney. Good luck, and keep me informed...