Darknes, Then Light!!

Back in Memphis,TN after leaving Titan Transfer. Hate it. Lesson FOR EVERYONE WHO'S ENTERING THE TRUCKING INDUSTRY. Do not bring your spouse with you if they are not 100% on board with you becoming a truck driver. What I mean by that is,I wanted to become a truck driver. Told my husband and he was iffy about it. But than started to get on board with it. Long story short. So Titan sends my a greyhound ticket but my husband insists that he takes me instead. He also wanted to stay with me in Shelbyville,tn while I finish out my training. Now orientation was amazing along with my training. Was only 5 of us so it was extremely amazing to get one on one time with the trainer. Ok,NOW let's fast forward. Husband wanted to go back home cause he thinks I could handle being a trucker,we get into a huge argument. I tell him to go back home but he doesn't want to leave without me cause we know nothing about the city we were in and he told me he wouldn't be able to sleep worrying about me. So I talked to my trainer and HR. Told them everything,told me I wasn't the first and let me go. They HR made it worst because they was so friendly about it and it made not want to leave. So as we was on our way back to Memphis. My husband was talking how he wants me to be an appraiser. I'm like no,I'll do that later on in life (keep in mind,I'm 24 years old). So than he got snappy and told me why can't I stay and just work two jobs. I said I'm not working two f'ing jobs!! I this is my dream and your tryna push it away from me. He looked at me and told me He just doesn't want to lose me. My husband lost 7 siblings to murder,drowning and car wrecks over the last 7 years. So I could understand why he was feeling the way he was feeling. We talked for awhile and told me Why couldn't I go to Roadmaster which is extremely close to home (30mins to be exact). So the next day I called Roadmaster and talked to the same recruiter I've talked to for 3 years and she was more than happy to get me in!! Took my drug test 2 days ago,now I have received my acceptance letter and will be heading to school on the 17th and will be driving for May Trucking after I graduate. I don't know if this is a blessing to leave the last company but ever since that day alot of amazing things has happen. Hubby got my truck fix,was sent a check from my last job that was way bigger than I thought, It only took 2 days for Roadmaster to get my drug test back and get me an acceptance letter,Looks like ill be bringing a new edition to the family along with me on the road (7 week old XLpitbull). But anyway my husband can be a pain in my bootay. But I love him. Ow can I tell y'all how excited he was when Roadmaster called me with the news...yes I'm confused myself lol. Pray for me y'all and a bless one.

Bubbles, you have more ups and downs than a really exciting roller coaster. You've already had some false starts, and now it's become fairly clear your man isn't on board. You've got a tough ride ahead. I wish you the best.

Thanks Old School. It has definitely been a crazy ride for me. Trying to stay positive though it all even though I feel it slowly fading. Up until now, I use to get super excited about joining the trucking industry. It scares me that I'm starting not to feel that way anymore after all I've been through. Its disappointing,I know. Will countiue to keep a leveled head.

now it's become fairly clear your man isn't on board.

Right. I can tell you that he's getting there in support me. All I can do is pray on it. You and so many others on TT have definitely pushed me in jump starting on a career that I always dream of doing. Thank You again!!

This trucking career thing is not going to work for the two if you unless you are both 100% committed to it. This needs to be done first, before you end up completing the school, head out with a trainer for a week, then the next emergency happens at home. At that point, you'll be out of a job, and on the hook for the thousands of dollars for the school.

Your husband does not work?

My husband lost 7 siblings to murder,drowning and car wrecks over the last 7 years. So I could understand why he was feeling the way he was feeling.

I was thinking your husband was a jerk until I read that. I'm at a loss for words. You two must really compliment each other in different ways :)

Wow sorry to read he lost that many in that time frame !!

Was bad enough just losing my mom in 2012 then my 28 year old son in 2014 You just keep each other strong !!

PackRat,your extremely right. Right now he's at a 40%. And I dont want him to have sleepless night worrying about me. Probably will hold off for a while. And yes he's a construction work. Been doing it for 4 years now. Even I get worry about him towering on 12 level buildings. So will definitely see how the future will look and how his support will change.

Auggie69 yes its definitely heartbreaking and definitely traumatic. I try to steer him away from doing anything illegal or crazy. Like he has my back,I most definitely got his.

Stevo Reno my deepest, deepest condolences to you and your family. And totally keeping each other strong through this tremendous storm. Praying for betters days.

Stay safe, Sane & sound out here everyone.

Thank you.

I kept reading the part where you said he wanted you home because you knew nothing of the city you were in....do you both realize you will constantly be in unfamiliar cities? How the heck are you going to train and drive by not going far? Even local would have you in unfamiliar places.

PackRat,your extremely right. Right now he's at a 40%. And I dont want him to have sleepless night worrying about me. Probably will hold off for a while. And yes he's a construction work. Been doing it for 4 years now. Even I get worry about him towering on 12 level buildings. So will definitely see how the future will look and how his support will change.

Auggie69 yes its definitely heartbreaking and definitely traumatic. I try to steer him away from doing anything illegal or crazy. Like he has my back,I most definitely got his.

Stevo Reno my deepest, deepest condolences to you and your family. And totally keeping each other strong through this tremendous storm. Praying for betters days.

Stay safe, Sane & sound out here everyone.

Thank you.

M'lady, I deferred from posting, but here's my two pennies. (My man just got home .. he drives 2nd and 1/2 shift..) If I were not committed, 1000%, we wouldn't be a trucking family.

Daughter born in 2000; son in 2004. He got 'legal' to drive in 2003. Life was tough... VERY. Carried our son.. alone while he was OTR; met him at the local T/A back then, for a ten. Had a place to park (Thk/Gawd) for his 34 at our place.. Son being born; sent him home for as long as he needed (or could afford...) .. Thk/Gawd again.

They gave him 3 weeks off.....not mentioning the OTR company, not important. Worked out, fine...sorda. I was lonely and alone.... but.. he did what he had to do, FOR our family.

Tonight: I fed my son (daughter is in college now) at 8 pm.. I know, kinda late but it's our life...

Daddy gets home at midnight thirty.. feed him; w/ the food still hot in the skillet.

Fold laundry.

Feed the pets. Empty his lunchbox/cooler. (Rinse, repeat in reverse, at 0900.)

It's VERY hard on the 'other person' and sleep is sporadic for ME, not the driver in my household. Can't be.

It's major commitment from the OTHER person... as I 'am' the other person.

Wish you well, m'lady.

Anne~

on the PS: notes.. condolences regarding the losses; couldn't imagine that. Lost my dad and put his mom in a home.. all through his driving and not being able to be here and there.

Yes, he's 'local/regional/dedicated/intrastate' and sure runs his 14's .. Just like Rob T. (and an occasional 16.) It's a lifestyle. OTR or not.

Best wishes.

I kept reading the part where you said he wanted you home because you knew nothing of the city you were in....do you both realize you will constantly be in unfamiliar cities? How the heck are you going to train and drive by not going far? Even local would have you in unfamiliar places.

Kearsey I swear I'm just as confused as you are. He know how long I'll be out & would rather me do the same training at a school near us even through I'll still have to go out the city once graduated. Keep in mind that Titan will have me home every weekend. While May is gonna have me out 2-3 weeks (chose the 11 western division). Sadly looks like I'll have to keep talking to him and just give it a go when he's fully onboarding with me. Definitely wanna cry right now.

Anne,You have spoken faith seriously. My entire family on my father's side (including my father) are truck drivers. It has been a very important part of my life,to be completely honest with you. It has also been a childhood dream. So for my dream to be reality,I'll be the happiest woman on earth. And goodness!! You and your husband are examples of dedication, determination, faith, amazing partnership...I can go on with this seriously. It's a blessing. Hopefully one day my husband can fully support me,like I do of him. Yeah I don't like the work he does but I'm all with it,as long as he's comfortable and happy. Also my deepest condolences to you and your family.Its not easy going through something like this. I truely believe that this is what's causing him to be this way towards me. I don't blame him at all for how he feels about me and trucking. All I can do is talk to him and comfort him because this is a huge change for the both of us. Again thank you Kearsey & Anne for your replies. TT is really an added on family for me. I don't know what I'll do without you guys,seriously. I swear finding and joining this site was the best decision I have made in my entire.