Personal Life Details

Just share, whatever YOU feel the need to period. A trainer is only a short time thing, and who's to say you stay in touch later? My trainer was from India, not the turban wearing type, just his goofy open sandles. Nice guy, we got along fine 95% of the time lol

I'm an open book, got nothing to hide or be ashamed of. My ex wife, who recently died of cancer, was Hispanic. We never had issues being mixed, but we are from So. Calif, lol a melting pot, and lots of mixed couples.

I wasn't into blonde females, and wanted mixed kids for some odd reason LOL.....Both were born with thick black hair maybe 2 inches long at birth, and both were just over 9 lbs each. My daughter/1st born, is dark toned like her mom, son was lighter skinned, could'a passed for a filipino in his teenager years. He looked more like me.... Before his death in 2013, he got more, street thug gangsta looking, with some ugly a$$ jail tattoo's

Oh I will get looks in Philippines, out with my filipina girl, but that's normal there, so no big deal being mixed couple. In the end, I never really cared what people thought of me, I am me, like it or not period. Not on this earth, to please strangers, I will never see again in life.

Don't sweat the small stuff Kerry

That's very easy.

When the casual conversation leads into more personal aspects of your life simply share with your trainer that you are a very private person, and that you would prefer not to discuss certain/many/all aspects of your personal life.

There's nothing special about that issue in the trainer/trainee situation - it's no different than working in close proximity with any group of people. Some folks share every minutia of their personal life, others share nothing at all. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle, sharing what we feel comfortable with.

The question you should really have is "What if my trainer insists on prying into my personal life?"

In that case your trainer is creating what is known as a Hostile Work Environment - an actionable situation that you should report to HR.

Gregg

Thank you, Gregg. This is what I was kind trying to feel out. Is there an expectation of privacy and if I feel like my personal privacy is not being respected, is it viewed as acceptable within the culture of trucking companies to say, "I don't like the environment this trainer is creating. Can something be done about it?"

I don't expect that I will have any problems at all. At every job I have had, people tend to like me and gravitate toward me because I work hard, chip in to help out co-workers, and keep things interesting with a good sense of humor. However, I also know that being assigned a trainer is a bit of a crap shoot. You just don't know what you will get. I have always approached the unknown with the mantra "hope for the best and plan for the worst."

Who cares? If some people don’t think it should happen who gives a rip. I’ve personally never encountered anybody who asked me if I had a significant other followed by what color are they? Not just trucking but in general. Have you Kerry?

Geez! Who is it that has the prejudices?

I’m pretty sure 99% of us don’t care who you’re married to and, ESPECIALLY, what color they are. If your marriage comes up in conversation, I seriously doubt ANY Trainer will be asking what color your spouse is.

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There are people here in Texas (mostly outside of major cities) who don't look too kindly at interracial relationships. It's kind of sad that this is still a thing, but I have seen that there are pockets of communities like this where people really don't think interracial relationships should happen.

Unfortunately, I have seen co-workers in the past who treated other co-workers differently once learning that they were in an interracial relationship.

I have never witnessed such a thing. Im sure it’s possible but again who cares? I wouldn’t let it bother me one bit.

Who cares? If some people don’t think it should happen who gives a rip. I’ve personally never encountered anybody who asked me if I had a significant other followed by what color are they? Not just trucking but in general. Have you Kerry?

Geez! Who is it that has the prejudices?

I’m pretty sure 99% of us don’t care who you’re married to and, ESPECIALLY, what color they are. If your marriage comes up in conversation, I seriously doubt ANY Trainer will be asking what color your spouse is.

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There are people here in Texas (mostly outside of major cities) who don't look too kindly at interracial relationships. It's kind of sad that this is still a thing, but I have seen that there are pockets of communities like this where people really don't think interracial relationships should happen.

Unfortunately, I have seen co-workers in the past who treated other co-workers differently once learning that they were in an interracial relationship.

What is wrong with people today? Why does everybody think this country is flooded with racists and prejudiced people?

We get these ridiculous questions every now and then and it gets annoying. It seems like everyone is desperate to be a victim these days. I hope somebody discriminates against me so I can tell everyone and get a pat on the back.

I'm Hispanic and it's obvious to people based on my features and my name. I've never encountered racism from anyone. Nobody has ever asked me the race of my wife and I've never asked anyone the race of there's.

In fact, there's such a shortage of white supremacists that hate crimes are being manufactured regularly. The issue is main stream media and click bait online news sources.

Nobody cares that you're in an interracial relationship, nobody cares if your gay, nobody cares about your race. Go out do your job to the best of your best ability. That's all anyone cares about.

What is wrong with people today? Why does everybody think this country is flooded with racists and prejudiced people?

We get these ridiculous questions every now and then and it gets annoying. It seems like everyone is desperate to be a victim these days. I hope somebody discriminates against me so I can tell everyone and get a pat on the back.

I'm Hispanic and it's obvious to people based on my features and my name. I've never encountered racism from anyone. Nobody has ever asked me the race of my wife and I've never asked anyone the race of there's.

In fact, there's such a shortage of white supremacists that hate crimes are being manufactured regularly. The issue is main stream media and click bait online news sources.

Nobody cares that you're in an interracial relationship, nobody cares if your gay, nobody cares about your race. Go out do your job to the best of your best ability. That's all anyone cares about.

Why the negativity? I am asking an honest question based on personal experience. I am sorry that your ideal of a world completely devoid of racism and prejudices doesn't exist. Can't a person ask an honest question here without being made to feel like they are less of a person for having asked?

You know what? I am tired of the toxicity that is allowed in this community.

Checking out. Later.

You asked a honest question Kerry you got an honest answer. I share Banks sentiment. I’m tired of people acting and talking like America is just filled with racism. It’s not. At the end of the day “racism” is shiz talk. Shiz talk them back and go about your day.

Why the negativity?

No negativity in from me. You're looking for negativity. You're expecting something bad to happen, I'm telling you it's not going to happen. Sounds like you're the negative one.

 am sorry that your ideal of a world completely devoid of racism and prejudices doesn't exist. 

It absolutely exists. I live in it everyday as a person of color. I've never had an issue. That's my personal experience.

Can't a person ask an honest question here without being made to feel like they are less of a person for having asked?

Nobody here spoke down to you or in a condescending tone. You're being sensitive because you're not getting the victim pat on the back you're looking for or praise for being in an interracial relationship. Congratulations! Do you feel better now?

You know what? I am tired of the toxicity that is allowed in this community.

It's an honest conversation.. I'm sorry you can't handle it. Go back to Facebook with the "fact checkers".

Checking out. Later.

Oh no, what we will do without your bad advice and wrong information. Bye.

I thought all the answers here were spectacular! I agree wholeheartedly. Almost no one cares about race.

The news media is a pawn of the government, who would love to see us fight amongst ourselves so we don't notice they're slowly destroying our society, taking away our rights and freedoms, and transferring all the wealth from the lower and middle classes to the mega-rich and the corporations. The transfer of wealth during this "pandemic" has been the greatest in human history, yet here we are like a bunch of idiots arguing over masks and racism, just like they had hoped. Millions of small businesses went bankrupt and a significant portion of our society is on welfare while every billionaire on the planet doubled their wealth the past 18 months, corporations made a monstrous killing or were flooded with "relief" from the government, and our government no longer operates under the rule of law or honors the Constitution.

But yeah, racism is our problem, right? No.

Banks, you totally nailed it!

It seems like everyone is desperate to be a victim these days. I hope somebody discriminates against me so I can tell everyone and get a pat on the back.

Right on cue, exactly as Banks had described, Kerry plays the victim, gets offended, and storms off playing the "moral superiority" card, which is obviously the reason he started this thread. To everyone's credit, you all saw right through his plot!

Kerry:

Can't a person ask an honest question here without being made to feel like they are less of a person for having asked?

You know what? I am tired of the toxicity that is allowed in this community.

Checking out. Later.

Another win for the Trucking Truth community! We never discriminate against people for race, creed, color, or even their background. We help anyone who asks for our help. However, we do not suffer fools well, nor should we, and I make no apologies for that. None of us will.

Kerry, I defend the people that have been in our community for a long time because they've proven themselves in this industry and they've proven to be the type of people we enjoy being around. You've asked me why I don't allow you to insult our members. It's simple - you haven't earned that place in this community. But you don't really earn anything, do you? You sit home on government money trying to convince us of your fantastic integrity and work ethic.

Kerry, you also asked an interesting question. You said, "I thought all opinions were allowed, as long as they are shared respectfully."

The answer to that is a big no! Uninformed opinions that mislead others are not welcome. I don't care if you serve them with a piece of hot apple pie and a smile, I will not allow our members to be misled by anyone.

You use another tactic we see right through. You play this game where you say something rude, distasteful, or just plain wrong, but you do it politely. The way your game is played, politeness makes anything ok to say. When we give you the cold, hard truth in return, you label us as "toxic monsters" which gives you the right to attack us relentlessly with your constant criticisms and "holier than thou" moral superiority. Then you march off, claiming to be offended, only to return with something even more ignorant or distasteful 10 minutes later.

These are modern tactics of control. They are called "control dramas" in the book, "Celestine Prophecy." A person creates a drama and then uses that contrived drama to control the speech and behaviors of others. "You offended me and now I'm upset (drama), so that gives me the right to attack you and hold moral superiority over you. You must spend all your time defending yourself and apologizing to me. (control)"

It's easy to see through, it's pathetic, and this community doesn't fall for it, as we have shown.

Great job everyone! Loved the answers here!

Here’s something to blow your mind, I’m white, my wife is very obviously not. In over twenty years of marriage, I have never had a conversation about my wife’s race with anyone ****il this very moment, on this site), even after a person has met my wife. My wife however regularly gets asked what she’s doing with a white boy.