Thinking Of Teaming With My Kid

Cut the cord.

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Cut the cord.

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Honestly, this industry takes a high level of self sufficiency, and a "get it done" attitude.

Your description of your son makes me think that it would be a very bad idea for him to get in a truck, because of previously bashing the trucking industry. Also, if it's not his idea, the drive just won't be there.

As for you, this post is reading like you are co-dependant and are unable to take risks without having someone there holding your hand.

Yeah, it would be nice to team with my kid. For about a week. But he is a grown adult and needs his separation from me as his parent, as much as I need separation from him as my now adult child.

It doesn't appear that you can handle the pressures of a driving career. I am not saying that to put you down, but point out the reality. Failure happens in this industry, for a multitude of reasons. The biggest is a persona inability to "get it done" without someone babysitting them and holding their hand.

NaeNae,

If you go back and read Tammy's comments over the past year, you will see that you hit the nail on the head! 🎯 💯

Cut the cord.

Exactly right!

PLEASE make sure sure sure sure that all forms of Cannabis are totallly void of your system, before EVEN thinking further, too! I know you like to party, m'lady. Didn't WE ALL in some form, at some point. Any residuals (even CBD) is the kiss of death in this industry, as has been proved time after time, right here on TT.

She STILL hasn't answered my question if she's off weed:

Have you been off weed long enough for it to be out of your system? Worry about that first.

Laura

Cut the cord.

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Tammy we understand wanting the best for your adult child but the only way to do that is to force him to grow up. You need to be willing to do whatever it takes to succeed. From previous posts your son clearly does not have that. What's going to end up happening is you're going to do most of the driving, he won't do his fair share, it'll impact your career negatively if you guys can't deliver on time, you'll resent him even more and can't exactly walk away when youre frustrated and the added stress increases likelihood of accidents and just all around not having a good time. The best thing you can do for him (and yourself) is start this career solo if you're going to become a driver. Down the road if he wants to drive by all means try teaming but getting your start solo would be far better in getting your career established

@ 34, he should decide HIMSELF, if he evens wants to become a driver. Being kinda forced to, without any other options in life, doubt he will dedicate 110% to do it, and be good at it. I went to school with a couple guys, who were homeless, and decided to "try out" trucking, and live in the truck......Well, of course, a few weeks to a month or so, NEITHER 1, were still driving, don't know whatever became of them.....

Hell, when I hit 19, my step dad said, "Ok your plate's been broken!" Meaning, it's time to get out of the house, and grow up on my own. I hadn't even gotten my 1st paycheck from my 1st "REAL" job....Moved in with my granny, she needed the help, and a ride now and then. I gave her $50 a week, and most of the time, she gave it back later. I was only taking home like $120 a week (min wage was $3 hr too)...

It was the BEST thing "pops" could'a done for me, it made me change my mindset, and figure out "Hey !!, I need to keep a job and learn to kinda live on my own, and BE a MAN.....

Tammy, Stevo made excellent points about it forcing him to grow up is spot on. When I was 18 I was working 2 jobs because I wanted to get my own place Saved up what felt like alot back then but really wasn't. Moved into an apartment with my girlfriend (now wife) a couple years later and other than crashing at her moms house for a couple months when we moved down to Florida, then couple weeks after my 2nd son was born (our lease was up 3 weeks after birth but needed 6 weeks to be cleared) before we left to come back north. Other than that I've taken care of mine and my wife's expenses with absolutely no help. She was working but aggressively paid off student loans. After we had our first of 3 kids she's been a stay at home mom for 7 years now it all falls on me to provide for my family. I'm only 32. My dad on the other hand is 63 and has never been independent. My grandma was always more than willing to give him money to solve his problems. All it did was enable him to blow it at the casinos knowing she'd give him more. He moved back and forth several times from MN to Las Vegas. He'd take a few thousand dollars down there and start doing Uber, blow too much at the casino, couldn't pay rent and grandma would give him money to make it back to MN because she loves him and wanted him to be happy. Couple months later repeat. He expects everybody to solve his problems or be his safety net. I haven't even sent him as much as a text in 2 1/2 years. After grandma passed away he asked my bro and sis in MN if they wanted him to stay up there. Of course they said yes, that fed his ego enough the next day he packed up and left to Vegas again. Everytime he bounces back my sister welcomes him back in because he guilt trips her of having no where to go. It disrupts the progress made and her 2 boys with special needs regress as soon as he's there because they know he's leaving again despite being told he's staying for good this time. The biggest reason besides his manipulation is he's so selfish. He had the audacity to ask to "borrow" a few thousand dollars while we were in the closing process of our home. Keep in mind he still owes my sister over $20k that he's "borrowed" but don't get me started on her stupidity for continuing to help him. He created a gofundme for some medical bills and was ****ED he only got $150. He flat out told me I'm a self centered P.O.S. for not helping him out with his latest fake sob story BECAUSE I WAS BUYING A HOME FOR MY FAMILY. Couple weeks after that he TOLD me he was moving into our downstairs because it already had a kitchen area with 2 bedrooms and a living room "it'll be my own little apartment". At that point I completely laid into him what a P.O.S. he is and to never contact me again as he is EXACTLY what I do not want my kids to be. Also because my sister makes excuses for him and manipulates my mom(divorced) I refuse to have a relationship with other than phone calls every few weeks.

The point is you THINK you're doing what's best for him. That's exactly what grandma was doing as well. Unfortunately by the time she realized her mistake it was far too late. I love my grandma and her loss still affects me at times but she enabled his behavior in the same way you're enabling your sons laziness.