Having A Rough Time...

This is one of those times to have a sit down with everyone and reevaluate the current situation. Some plans may need to be put off for a year or so. Only you could decide that much. And whose plans need to be put on hold? Yours or your wives.? Tough one.

Here is a super serious question that may or may not help. If your wife finishes school can she find a job in her choose profession once she is done and right away? If yes and it's worth the wait you might be able to take that job and struggle for a year but then there is Newtons Law. I hate you are in this position cause its a tough one.

TThere are a few times in life that things maybe have to be put on hold for just a little while.

That was supposed to be Murphys law but I guess I could twist Newtons law to fit what I was trying to say. Lol

This is one of those times to have a sit down with everyone and reevaluate the current situation. Some plans may need to be put off for a year or so. Only you could decide that much. And whose plans need to be put on hold? Yours or your wives.? Tough one.

Here is a super serious question that may or may not help. If your wife finishes school can she find a job in her choose profession once she is done and right away? If yes and it's worth the wait you might be able to take that job and struggle for a year but then there is Newtons Law. I hate you are in this position cause its a tough one.

TThere are a few times in life that things maybe have to be put on hold for just a little while.

-guyjax

I'm with guyjax on this one. If you go OTR , you may end up thwarting her efforts to finish school because she will have to take care of the baby on her own and won't have time to study. If that happens, your options will be even more narrow than before and you may be forced to stay OTR to support the family while her unfinished nursing degree is hangin' out there along with her inability to contribute, financially. Nurses make good money too.

She's already in school and you already committed to that part so you may have to wait till she's finished. Take that job offer now, while you still have it and end that unemployment asap. With this new job, you'll still be able to make ends meet, if you decide you're going to live like the proverbial "poor students" for a while and help her with the baby while she's studying. Nurses are in good-to-high demand and the jobs are out there, especially if she puts in some volunteer time while still in school and becomes known in the medical community before she starts looking for work. With that part taken care of, it may become a little easier for you to work on your CDL stuff and you two can plan on how you'd work that into your lives too. There's always the possibility of local truck driving jobs, if going over the road is too tough on you two and the baby.

I think with all the crud you're dealing with, though, the last thing you want to do is back yourselves into corners where there are fewer options than before - for instance if you went over the road now and she was then sort-of forced into quitting school because she would be on her own while you were gone all the time. Nursing and medicine evolve so quickly that if she had to stop and finish later, she most likely would have to start all over again in a couple of years, from the beginning because her first year or so that she's already completed, would have become obsolete. She might as well wrap it up, while you're close by, the baby is still little and manageable. What you're doing by supporting her right now is very admirable and honorable and you're probably playing a little bit of Mr. Mom, for now. You'll never, ever regret that time with your daughter anyway 'cause she'll only be little once.

Slow down, just a little and I think you will be able to make this whole team effort work and I bet it will all start coming together in about a year and a half. By that time, the baby will be close to 3 and her separation anxiety will have decreased quite a bit, then too.

Best Wishes. Keep us posted.

-mountain girl

my last job I made 750-1000 a week after taxes. Unfortunately,I was naive and I signed some stupid legal agreement that says I will not work for another competitor for at least 2 years...

Now that's the wild card in this whole thing. Can you land a good paying job once that two years has passed? How long until that happens? Did that agreement cover doing subcontract work also or does that agreement only pertain to you being an employee of one of their competitors? You might have a loophole to work with. You might also speak with your former company about releasing you from that agreement because of your circumstances.

Thanks for all the replies!!! Unfortunately, I probably could not continue after the 2 year agreement just because it was my first job in that field. It was HVAC. I did alright in it but I just wasn't happy and I think it started to reflect on my work. As far as the job opportunity at 22K a year....well I would HAVE to get medical insurance due to my daughter having some medical issues and their medical insurance was around $800 a month. After medical thats around $12K a year before taxes....there is no way I can support my family on that. Unfortunately my options were either me, or me and my spouse, or my whole family. They would not just let me do my daughter or me and my daughter due to me being married. They also had little to no possibility of OT....on the plus side we are prepared and ready to get started. Just have to decide on a company. As far as a support system, our church is very supportive and we would have some child care. My parents will also be in the area till November. I am excited to get into this career. I feel like I can finally get somewhere financially and maybe save some for school. I am excited for what lies ahead and I hope to see you all on the road!

my last job I made 750-1000 a week after taxes. Unfortunately,I was naive and I signed some stupid legal agreement that says I will not work for another competitor for at least 2 years...

Now that's the wild card in this whole thing. Can you land a good paying job once that two years has passed? How long until that happens? Did that agreement cover doing subcontract work also or does that agreement only pertain to you being an employee of one of their competitors? You might have a loophole to work with. You might also speak with your former company about releasing you from that agreement because of your circumstances.

It included any form of HVAC work. I cannot even sell the stuff even though I only worked install/Maintenance. And unless I have schooling I probably will not find work. They trained their own guys. Thats the only way I got hired between that and my veteran status. I am not a mechanically inclined person. 90% of my job experience is medical, EMS, Military, or retail and food service.

Here is something to think long and hard about and if you have not you need to talk to your wife as it will effect her most or all and this is a very real world out look on your issue....

Since your frozen out of your area of expertise and 22k will not cut it then I see nothing in the way of options. You start school and get a job driving a truck and get insurance for your family.

Now here is the part that may be hard to swallow and effects your wife the most. It might come down to her put a side her schooling for a year or two till yall are a bit more financially stable and have a good understanding of the routine that will be in place. She will not loose her credits and her schooling this far to be a nurse will still be valid a year or two down the line.

Not saying this is the best option and certainly not going to be easy on your wife cause nursing school is not the easiest thing in the world but with you in limbo it's a very viable plan of action.

Just something to ponder.

If your wife is going for her 2nd year of RN, its mostly clinical, OJT....using what she learned in the first year kinda stuff. So I don't think it would be wise to hold her back on that last year of school. BUt I'm sure theres some way that you can do the trucking thing and she can do the school thing...Its just scheduling, and money management....and if you don't have any money, you don't need to manage it....but thats not always a good thing