Tell Me It Gets Easier With Spouse Or Boyfriend On The Road.

Robert, you mentioned skype. We skyped quite a bit in the beginning and haven't now in weeks. He is having problems with his cell data service in many areas. What cell company seems to be the best to use nationwide?

I will get through, I have faith that we will get through, I just needed someone to talk to about it I guess.

I do not want him to mess up his chances of getting a better job by leaving his first one before his dues are paid so to speak. We committed to this and need to see it through. Ultimately, he does want to get a local job but that is so far off in the distance it doesn't feel like it will ever be a reality.

Old School, I get that I do not want to weigh him down with how I am feeling. We're both completely stressed out as it is and that is definitely causing a rift between us to begin with. Then factor in that we are both going through new experiences and fears, and I'm an emotional woman and he is a stoic man and it's just a recipe for disaster lol Who can I talk to about this stuff with if I cannot talk to him about it though? I do not want to burden him with my crap but having no one to talk to is just adding to the loneliness.

And let me add that I have SO much respect for him. I am so grateful to him that he is working so hard for our family to be an excellent provider. I can rationalize all the reasons why this is a good thing for us and all the reasons we are BOTH making these sacrifices (we are in this together even though we what feels like a million miles apart). I feel silly now being such a whiner. I just had to get it out and figured this would be a good place to get some insight.

Verizon and AT&T seem to be the service most recommend as far as the best coverage. I'm with Sprint and occasionally have data issues but not as many as I thought I would.

I feel silly now being such a whiner. I just had to get it out and figured this would be a good place to get some insight.

Hey Stephanie, we don't consider you a whiner - we actually understand how tough this is, and I hope some of the responses you've received are helpful.

Through the years of my marriage I always thought it was helpful for my wife to have a close female friend that she could "vent" to at times. I don't know why it helped, but men and women are just wired a little differently. It was helpful to her to have someone who she could just sort of complain to without them trying to give her a solution to her complaint. Men tend to want to "fix" what ever isn't working well, and that just usually irritated my wife when I would come up with a solution to the thing that she only wanted to "vent" about. Do you have a close girl friend who you can talk to occasionally? It may help you deal with some of the frustrations.

Nothing wrong with venting. It goes both ways. A wise driver once told me to save my own venting for another driver, rather than for my wife.

I don't want to publicly air my dirty laundry here, but I just came out of a relationship and understand the loneliness and boredom. Just wanted to say, feel free to inbox me. I've got tons of ideas for distractions (volunteering at the local animal shelter is one great thing for the kids!) Hang in! What's meant to be will be!

Neither one of us have very many friends. I'm pretty close with my mom but I try not to talk about our relationship too much with her. Pretty much it was just he and I most of the time, which is certainly a huge factor in the loneliness. I can appreciate that neither of us should drag one another down by too much complaining, but as his partner, I WANT him to talk to me. Granted there's not anything he can do from the road, but I want to know what is going on in his life, that is what a relationship is to me. When you start withholding information is the beginning of the end in my mind, or can lead you into the arms of your new "confidant". I don't want that for either of us and I'm sure he doesn't either. But there just doesn't seem to be a happy medium. I don't want to stress him out and he doesn't want to stress me out but there is not a whole lot more going on in either of our lives than the "trucker path" in front of us.

I left out two key notes: 1.) Adults can get Separation Anxiety, just like kids and pets. There's quite a bit of info out there if you look. Understanding that will help a lot 2.) While it's ok to vent, be careful what you say to others. The best person to discuss your relationship with is the one you're in a relationship with :) Don't tell your friends and family the things he does that irritate you as you will forgive him; they won't. It's ok to say you're upset and vent...but leave out the key details :) Trust me; I learned the hard way *sigh* Hopes this helps!!!

Stephanie, three more things:

#1: You have joined one of the most level headed, sincere, honest batch of people in trucking. I've been active in Trucking Truth since December, and I've seen this group give straight advice to all comers, without judgement. You have gotten comments from trucking newbies as well as 20+ year veterans already.

#2: Talk, don't always text with your significant Other. More information comes across in the phone than you'll ever get typed out as a text. Also, all the words you've seen on this thread, taking a couple of hours to get out, would be 10-15 minutes face to face. (Imagine the great time we would have, all together!)

#3: In this situation, your talk real can't be all sugary sweetness - you have two lives to live and coordinate. And sometimes honesty isn't pretty.

As others have said here, if you choose the best path, there's light at the end of this tunnel. It will get easier, either by both of you getting used to the current situation, or your guy is able to hire into a job where he gets to see his sweetheart almost every day.