Tell Me It Gets Easier With Spouse Or Boyfriend On The Road.

Thank you all so much for taking the time to help me!!

Thank you all so much for taking the time to help me!!

I know I have not jumped into this thread until now, but anytime you have questions/concerns/rant, feel free to jump in here. As you have seen, there are lots of folks here that can & do take the time to help whenever possible.

Just to give you some background on myself. I was born/raised on a dairy farm, spent 20 years in the military, retired from that 21 years ago. So I have lots of experience with being away from loved ones. My wife & I have been married for almost 34 years. Spent lots of time apart on several deployments, time on the road, etc.

So don't ever shy away from asking questions, because I am sure that someone here can & will help if we can.

Ernie

I have to agree with earlier advice you've read. You have GOT to get out of the house. If all you do is stay home and do house stuff and take care of kids then you have way too much time to think about being alone and then you dwell on it. If you don't break this cycle, it's not going to get better or easier on either of you. And, you won't ever have anything new to talk about. Joining in some volunteer programs is a great idea, grow some plants with the kids, go swimming and send him pics of everyone having fun, take walks to the local park, make trips to the library, do arts and crafts, make homemade popsicles, knit, do nail art, exercise, do something. When you do activities with the kids, make sure to include him by sending pics and in return ask for pics of stops or cities or funny signs or whatever. Help the kids write a play and perform a video for him! And then talk about those activities. And then ask him about his stuff. You will be much happier when you don't have time to dwell on being alone because you're doing a lot of stuff and looking for picture opportunities with the kids. Meet other adults with kids especially. Set up play dates. Look for community activities.

The women who do best with these sorts of separations are the ones who can be very independent and resourceful when they are alone so, it's time to be that person. The only thing holding you back from having fun and being happy is yourself. Good luck.

You know I'm glad I read trucking truth for a good month prior to pulling the trigger with prime. I went in with the mindset that it'd be real hard and it was and sometimes is. But I was mentally prepared for it so it wasn't a big surprise. It's also very rewarding and the money gets better and better as I become more proficient. I still get better at every part of the job and I work 7 days a week 10-12 hours a day. The people that I see have trouble are the ones that come in and both think it'll be easy money and can't handle the humility. I was a complete buffoon in regard to backing for awhile. Downshifting was difficult in the beginning but it for sure gets easier. This job is for sure not for the feint of heart and that is why I love it. And Brett isn't joking about Chicago. I had a drop live unload there in smack center of the city and that for sure will test your nerves. Off steer parking on both sides of the street and I mean you barely get through unscathed. Having to pull in the middle of the road and blind side into the dock with cars waiting on both sides will test you too lol. I'm not joking either. Thank god I wasn't sent there week one solo

I think I posted to the wrong discussion lol

I think I posted to the wrong discussion lol

Josh, I think it just might help out here!

I think I posted to the wrong discussion lol

Josh, I think it just might help out here!

I agree with Errol :)

I have to agree with earlier advice you've read. You have GOT to get out of the house. If all you do is stay home and do house stuff and take care of kids then you have way too much time to think about being alone and then you dwell on it. If you don't break this cycle, it's not going to get better or easier on either of you. And, you won't ever have anything new to talk about. Joining in some volunteer programs is a great idea, grow some plants with the kids, go swimming and send him pics of everyone having fun, take walks to the local park, make trips to the library, do arts and crafts, make homemade popsicles, knit, do nail art, exercise, do something. When you do activities with the kids, make sure to include him by sending pics and in return ask for pics of stops or cities or funny signs or whatever. Help the kids write a play and perform a video for him! And then talk about those activities. And then ask him about his stuff. You will be much happier when you don't have time to dwell on being alone because you're doing a lot of stuff and looking for picture opportunities with the kids. Meet other adults with kids especially. Set up play dates. Look for community activities.

The women who do best with these sorts of separations are the ones who can be very independent and resourceful when they are alone so, it's time to be that person. The only thing holding you back from having fun and being happy is yourself. Good luck.

This is fantastic advice. As a rookie driver with a wife and 3 young kids at home right now, I can tell you that one of the most important things for me on the road is to know that my wife and kids are having fun. The main reason I'm out here doing what I'm doing is so that my family can be happy and have the opportunity to live a full and well-rounded life. I'm sure your man fees the same way. He WANTS to know that the sacrifices he's making are actually having real, tangible results for his family.

My wife has signed up at our local community center. She takes the kids there for swim lessons, crafts, etc. She also has our kids in ice skating. The benefits of doing things like this are immeasurable. Your kids will be happier and will learn so much, you will get out of the house, and you will meet all kinds of nice people, many of whom will more than likely be in similar situations. You absolutely need to find some female friends you can chat with, because as Old School said, men will simply never understand. They can pretend to, and they can be "understanding," but they will never truly understand, and will always look for a way to fix things instead of just listening.

You said you trust him and are not worried about infidelity, but you're also concerned that his lack of communication will lead him into the arms of another woman. It can't be both. If you trust him, then do so fully, and take the advice above. He has enough to worry about, and believe me, he is probably so worn out every day that he doesn't even have the remotest desire to mess around. He loves you, that's why he's doing this. Love him back by not allowing his efforts to be in vain. Take advantage of the financial benefits when they start rolling in, find a good support network, talk with him every day but leave him his space to do what he needs to do without feeling guilty, and I promise things will get so much easier.