Friendly Reminder (the Trucker Wife's Version)

It's clear how difficult this is for you right now and that just sucks. I feel for you and your entire family....it's tough on everyone, no doubt about it. I wish there was something I could think of to say that would help.

Brett, I am doing a lot better than I was. We're all adjusting. I just wanted to give you men folk a fresh perspective from the other side of trucking. ;)

Being a trucker's wife isn't easy. Far from it.

There is a shirt I got my wife from a Flying J. It says, the only thing stronger than a trucker is a trucker's wife.

I got her the wrong size therefore she doesn't wear it, but she does like it. And when I first gave it to her, she said, that hit the nail on the head.

I am ex-Navy and now into trucking. Thru two different marriages.

The DOD had a huge medical department from some big name university (I can't remember which one) do a study. Why is there such a high divorce rate among military families.

The study took 4 years and of course many millions of our tax dollars. But they came to a simple conclusion. The divorce rate is so high because the family is apart so much of the time. There is no real family unity.

DUH. Everyone in the military could have told them that and saved millions of dollars. But just as with out government. The DOD refused to agree with their points and said it has to be deeper than that. And they dropped it.

There is not much difference in trucking except you are not gone so long at a time and you are still here in the US. Usually just a phone call away. But it is still a split family.

As far as keeping the conversations light. I have been in the military and now in trucking. In my opinion, I think that is total hogwash.

I want to know what it going on at home. That is my home too. Do I need to know all the "messy" details. No. But I still want to be kept in the loop.

My wife called me the other day. We had a water leak under our house. I am almost 2000 miles away. There is nothing I can do about it. But I am still glad she called me.

I told her to turn the water off outside. (Which her dad had already done it). Then get on the phone and call a plumber or a contractor.

All in all, she helped her dad look around in the garage and they found stuff to repair the leak. Is it something I needed to know? No, not really. But I am glad she told me.

I might be 2000 miles away at times, but I am still her husband, partner, and friend. I am still a part of the family.

She has called me complaining about her job or something that happened at work. And I do the same to her. That is what families do. They lean on each other. And yes, even from 2000 miles away you can still lean on your partner's shoulders.

Keep it safe out there, the life you save might be your own.

The Blue Angel.